I don’t believe or agree with this, but many people argue that homosexuality is a slippery slope to pedophilia and bestiality. Until my recent podcast interview with Chelsey Glassco. I never understood why people made this argument. And although their primary assumption is faulty, their logic is sound. If you were to go into the head of someone who believes that homosexuality leads to all sorts of sexual perversions, here’s an insight into their thinking. SATIRE ALERT!
Lust is like the conch shell in the photo. At its core, you have opposite-sex attractions (“OSA”). If you have OSA, then you have limited amounts of lust in your heart. But if you do anything to increase the lust, such as look at pornography, then that lust can spiral.
You’ll quickly move on to adultery or general sluttiness and then perhaps even homosexuality.
You argue that some people are gay while others are straight. It’s not just having more or less lust, but you’d be wrong. Lust is lust. There aren’t different kinds. No one has an inherent attraction to the same sex. It’s just lust that’s out of control.
If we’re honest and really look at the Bible, we’ll realize that we’d be better off if we could just handle our lust and remain celibate (Paul was a huge proponent of this). But if you’re weak, then it’s fine to get opposite-sex married. Marriage based on OSA is really the only thing powerful enough to control and contain our lust. That’s why sex is evil and terrible and shameful up to the point where you get married, and then it’s beautiful and life-affirming. But don’t let your shameful lust for sex get out of control! That’s the basis for the end of society.
Homosexuality is lust run rampant. We can’t tolerate it. Because it’s outside the bounds of marriage, that level of lust can’t be contained. And before you know it, while you’re laughing away at Cam and Mitch on Modern Family, the homosexual agenda is marching towards legalization of pedophilia and then bestiality.
Only OSA marriage can save us from the dangers of the lust spiral!
WHY DO YOU PRAY? HOW DO YOU PRAY? WHAT DO YOU PRAY?
These questions have occupied a lot of my thinking time recently. A few months ago, I embarked on a personal quest to reclaim Christianity from so-called “Christians.” I realize that I’ve let them hijack one of the most important tools of my religious tradition: prayer.
Like so many religious things, I feel that prayer has been corrupted. For many people, prayer is “Amazon Prime.” Just ask Jesus for something, and it will be delivered in two days.
I’ll admit that in my youth, I used prayer and Jesus as a personal concierge service, but as I’ve struggled recently to renew my spirit and relationship with the Divine, I’ve wanted a better approach to prayer.
I’m taking a theology course at my church, and this week we took a survey of our personal beliefs and attitudes about God. One question asked us to describe the purpose of function that prayer fulfills in our lives.
Here are some of the options:
- Communion with God
- Petition (prayer for self)
- Intercession (prayer for others)
- Autosuggestion (planting ideas in our subconscious mind to effect change in our lives)
- Communion with Inner Self
After reviewing this list and seeing the richness and fullness of how others use prayer, I realized that I needed to apply some of my Virgo-attorney-left-brain skills to praying.
Here’s what I’ve come up with as an outline for my prayers. And I realize that I need to structure and schedule daily prayer time. This isn’t something I can just do on the fly. I need to write things down and block out a chunk of uninterrupted time for this daily communion with the Divine.
- Acknowledge God and the sacred
- Express gratitude for the abundance in my life.
- Personal requests.
- Prayer for others.
- Sit with my thoughts and listen for the voice of the Holy Spirit.
- Write down any thoughts, feelings, and reflections on this time of communion.
Like my spiritual journey, this prayer habit is a work in progress, and I’ll keep you posted on changes and my progress. And I would LOVE to hear from you about your prayer habits and the purpose of prayer in your life.
Linda Harvey is a woman on a mission.Through her organization Mission: America, she takes up the standard torch of the far right, bashing the triumvirate of evil: gays, Planned Parenthood and Muslims.
On her weekly talk show, she recently lamented that acceptance of gay people seems to be widespread despite her efforts to paint us as godless child molesters. “People are becoming so comfortable with this, even people on our side.”
She offered a solution: “We need to re-horrify people about the sin of homosexuality.” Of course, that means spreading falsehoods about organizations which try to promote tolerance of the LGBTQIA+ community. She believes that the “homosexual clubs in schools are just red flags for predators. I think that they exist there as an audience to continue to fast-track kids into the lifestyle.”
If so many people didn’t agree with her and believe the lies she spews like blood in a Quentin Tarantino movie, then we might laugh her off. BUT SHE IS SERIOUS. AND SHE HAS AN AUDIENCE.
On her website, she uses facts like she mishandles Scriptures, cutting and pasting one fact after another without context. According to her data, gay people are out to destroy our society, our values and the far-right version of 20th century America-centered christianity.
How do we stop people like her? WE TELL OUR STORIES. We talk about our relationships. We talk about our marriages. We talk about our families.
And we talk about our faith. As the good book says, “By their fruits you will know them.” Let’s not attack religion because of the Linda Harvey’s of the world. Let’s show people like her the true example of Christ and his love and compassion for everyone.
My comments on this week’s viral video: You might not agree with the content and message, but it’s helpful to know thy enemy. It’s been cold in my hometown of South Carolina for the past couple weeks, so my brother sent me this text: Trump has only been in office 1 year and already fixed […]
If you really want to discuss difficult issues at the Thanksgiving table, the best approach is to start by listening. And avoid the eye roll! And don’t read my instructions on how to give the perfect eye roll. Seriously. Don’t learn how to roll your eyes like an expert.
In what I’m calling the “Battle of the Cakes”, The Satanic Temple has joined the fighting. They released the following statement:
“. . . The laws of the United States require that no one may discriminate by way of refusal of service against an evangelical theocrat for their religious beliefs, but the evangelical theocrat may discriminate against LGBTQ people because of who they are. . . . If [baker] aren’t willing to make a cake for same-sex unions, let’s have them make a cake to honor Satan instead.”
As I told you before, I’m Christian.” Bob the Baker stood up from the table. “I can’t support two guys getting married.”
The words hit Jake like a bran muffin, and he could feel his insides churning. “But you made and decorated my marriage proposal muffin.”
“I didn’t realize you were going to use one of my engagement muffins to propose to a man.” Bob wrested his portfolio from Jake’s hands. “I would never have sold you that muffin if I’d known.”
The so-called Alliance Defending Freedom (i.e., discrimination) has struck again with another frivolous appeal to the U.S. Supreme Court. This time, they’ve picked a terrible case. They’re arguing that judges should have the right to express their religious views publicly. In October 2014, the Wyoming Supreme Court declared that Wyoming had to issue a marriage […]
I’m not sure what it says about me (probably just that I’m typical), but I love enjoying my first and second (and sometimes third) cups of coffee each morning while browsing on my computer. I love checking in on Slack with my writing mastermind group, updating my gratitude journal. Then I check emails. But this morning, I can’t get online. TO FIND OUT HOW TO “MICROSOFT” TECHNOLOGY PROBLEMS…
My husband and I were having caviar cones at our favorite restaurant in Beverly Hills, when I raised the specter of chartering a jet and taking some friends to Sonoma for his 50th birthday. It should only be an hour and half flight from Palm Springs, and I figured I could schedule a lunch with Liz in the Bubble Room at J winery, our favorite spot for sparklers. Afterwards, I imagined an afternoon of pinot tasting at Banshee with Zack followed by an early dinner at Chalkboard, featuring their pasta tasting menu.
My husband doesn’t like birthdays and doesn’t want a fuss, but I feel that I have standards to maintain.
The moments in life when you are special, when you are treated differently, and when things are going great – How can you cherish those unless you’ve been through a lot? We only get to enjoy first class because we’ve spent most of our times in coach. I encourage you to relish those moments at the back of the bus because they’re training you for when you get your moment. If everything is first class, then nothing is first class. READ MORE.
Nike’s motto is not something best left on a T-shirt. “Just Do It” should be the mantra for how we all live our lives. The battle is not to figure out how to solve all the problems before acting or overcome all the fears before doing. There’s never the perfect time. Sometimes, you just have to take that leap and then pick up the pieces. You can’t perfectly plan your life (and I’m talking to my fellow Virgos in particular here). There are some things that you’ll screw up, but you’ll have the memories of all the things that you did do.
And not the regret of all the things you did not.
Follow your passions, loyal readers. It’s the best advice you’ll ever get.
A proper flight begins with champagne, and I’m not talking the $7 a bottle Prosecco that US carriers try to give you for pre-flight. I mean the fancy French stuff that can actually be called Champagne because it’s from that region in France.
I’ve responded to the election of Donald Trump like a death. On November 8th, I went to bed in denial thinking that maybe I’d wake up, and it would have been a bad dream. Then I was angry that people would vote for someone I considered unfit for the most important job in the world. Next, I was willing to bargain with the courts in Michigan and Pennsylvania to do a recount. And finally, I was just depressed.
I can’t hide in my liberal California bubble, praying that God does indeed cause an earthquake splitting my state from the rest of the country.
As we honor the memory of Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr., I think we should never forget that he was a reluctant leader of the civil rights movement. His true calling was as a pastor. And every year on this day, I’m inspired by all of the MLK-quote memes shared on Facebook to dive deep into his wisdom and read a few of his sermons.
This week, I’m dispensing with the normal Grey Matters format to share with you something I’ve learned the hard way. Marriage takes work, and relationships are never perfect. On Halloween, I celebrated my 8th wedding anniversary. And I’ll be honest. On October 31, 2008, I wasn’t sure that I wanted to get married. It’s not […]
Glick and Preon are intergalactic space travelers and members of the Bratoon race of humanoids. They are about to spend the next few years on the planet H-trae. The physiology of Glick and Preon requires them to take a pill in order for them to be able to survive in H-trae’s environment. They have two […]
Three months ago, Philip and Brooke moved with their ten-year old son, Andre, from their predominantly black neighborhood on the south side of Atlanta to a white suburb on the north side. Andre just started at his new school and is playing on a local football team. Although fictional, this story is inspired by true […]
Miles is 17 years old and wants to be a Southern Baptist preacher, the same as his father and grandfather. But Miles has a problem. He struggles with same-sex attractions. For the past year, he’s been dating Tracy, a girl who goes to his church. But Tracy has a brother named Scott, and Miles is more attracted to the brother than his own girlfriend. Tracy’s family has a pool, and Miles spent all summer over there, trying not to look (but failing) at Scott. Miles just wants to have normal feelings like everyone else. He wants to look at Tracy and notice her for what she has to offer. But he can’t stop thinking about the fact that her brother has the same emerald green eyes and red hair, and that if he squints hard enough, he can pretend that he is kissing Scott.
Jake was born in South Korea. Adopted by a lesbian couple when he was ten months old, he has lived in North Carolina ever since. He is gay, right-handed, a baseball player, and eighteen-years old. He just started college at Stonewall Jackson University, a small liberal arts college in South Carolina. General Stonewall Jackson was […]
Jake was born in South Korea. He was adopted by a lesbian couple when he was ten months old and has lived in North Carolina ever since. Gay, right-handed, a baseball player, and eighteen-years old, he just started college at Stonewall Jackson University, a small liberal arts college in South Carolina. General Stonewall Jackson was […]
Chad checked his watch. He and his friends had been waiting in the bar area of the restaurant for almost an hour. He loved this place, but it didn’t take reservations, and getting a table for eight on a Friday night required a wait. It did give him a chance to catch up with his […]
This is a story about apologies featuring Liz and her best friend, John. “I can’t believe it’s only Tuesday!” Liz texted her gay BFF. “Señor Miguels and margaritas?” An instantaneous reply. “YEAASSS!” It had been a couple weeks since Liz and John had gone out for drinks after work. Liz’s fault. She had a new […]
Please enjoy this week’s guest blog post from Amanda Toler Woodward. Birds do it, bees do it, and I hate to break it to you, we do it, too. I’m aging as I type this. You’re aging as you read it. If we’re both lucky we’ll keep aging until we are . . . gasp […]
ISSUE: Couples often face family disapproval. This could be because someone has married outside of their race or religion or nationality, and in many cultures, parents would never want their children to marry a same-sex partner. One option is to just not ever tell the parents about the wedding. But this is challenging and could […]
ISSUE: Talking about religion can be uncomfortable for people, and hearing others talk about their religion can be downright off-putting. In this week’s Grey Matters, we look at the issue of faith and the professional athlete. In particular, should an Olympic runner for Team USA give praise to Allah for his gold medal? This story […]
ISSUE: This week in Grey Matters, we look at the First Amendment and the free exercise of religion, and how far should this be protected. In particular, should a doctor be forced to choose between following her faith and practicing medicine. Let’s examine this topic with a fictional story about Dr. Evelyn Wright, a pediatrician in […]
ISSUE: This election year, our nation is deeply divided over who should lead our country for the next four years. In this week’s Grey Matters, we look at the issue of talking about politics at work. Specifically, is there any reason for a Trump supporter and a Hillary supporter to talk about this year’s election? […]
ISSUE: More than half of Americans say that faith is important to them, but it’s not something that many people talk about. In this week’s Grey Matters, we look at the issue of sharing your faith at work. Specifically, should Gayle be able to invite her co-worker Amanda to a church event or does her […]
ISSUE: This week in Grey Matters, I want to share with you a story, inspired by a conversation I had with a friend. It’s about the talk that black parents have with their kids about interactions with the police and the police shootings. Let’s examine this topic with a fictional story about Philip and Brooke, and […]
ISSUE: This week in Grey Matters, we look at a dilemma facing every married couple, gay or straight. What do you do about the social convention where the wife takes the husband’s last name? Let’s examine this topic with a fictional story about Juan Gomez, an attorney, and Billy White, a personal trainer. The couple has […]
ISSUE: This week in Grey Matters, we look at a trend in the healthcare industry where religious-affiliated groups are taking over public hospitals and applying their ethics and values. Specifically, is it ok for religious-affiliated hospitals to limit treatment options for patients ? Let’s examine this topic with a fictional story about Carol and Dr. […]
ISSUE: This week in Grey Matters, we look at discrimination and the sharing economy. Specifically, should a person have the right to refuse to rent a room in her home to a gay couple? Let’s examine this topic with a fictional story about Dot and Austin, lifelong residents of Nashville, TN. BACKGROUND: For more than […]
The characters and events in Grey Matters are fictitious. ISSUE: This week in Grey Matters – We look at the issue of “coming out” relative to the consequences. Specifically, does the CEO of a company have the right to publicly announce that he is gay even if it might affect his employees, corporate earnings and […]
A cultural war is brewing – even the media is speaking of it in these terms – as hundreds gather in Raleigh, North Carolina to either support or protest last month’s overturning of a controversial law. The city of Charlotte had passed an ordinance protecting the LGBT community from discrimination and allowing people to use […]
Life is a lot easier when you just accept the fact the world is full of idiots.
It’s nice to be proud of where you’re from. I grew up in South Carolina, and I was always jealous of North Carolina. This started when I was in first grade and someone from North Carolina moved into our neighborhood. He bragged about how the North defeated the South in the Civil War, and I […]
This is the first blog in my “All the Words in Red” series where we take a look at what Jesus said and apply that to 21st century problems. When I was a kid growing up in rural South Carolina, we had a saying, “Thank God for Mississippi.” The reason we said this: even […]
Please check out this public service announcement from the non-political Ellen Degeneres. I love her comment that she could buy the governor’s mansion, redo it, flip it and make $7 million.
It’s been a crazy week in anti-LGBT legislation. For a boy from South Carolina, it’s been interesting to see how my neighbors, Georgia and North Carolina, have behaved. On March 23, 2016, the state of North Carolina passed a law that struck down an ordinance passed by the city council of Charlotte, the state’s largest […]
I try my best to be balanced. I want to be a voice of reason and try to understand both sides of an issue– any issue – and see how we can reach common ground. But there are some times that I just have to call out hatred and discrimination for what it is. In […]
This November, Missouri voters will be able to pass an amendment that will enshrine in the Missouri Constitution the right to discriminate against same sex couples on the grounds of a sincere religious belief. With a change in their procedural rules, Missouri Republican Senators stopped a thirty-nine-hour filibuster of the anti-gay bill, sending it to […]
It’s been in the news for a couple of years now. Across the United States, small business owners have refused to provide services for same sex weddings. Just last month, in Longview, Texas, the owners of Kern’s Bakery, Edie Delorme and her husband, refused to bake a cake for an engaged gay couple, Ben […]
Pat Conroy died last night. As his wife, novelist Cassandra King Conroy, said, “The water is wide and he has now passed over.” It’s a common question writers get. Who were your main influences? I know that I’m a writer today primarily because of Pat Conroy. Growing up in South Carolina, I had an inferiority […]
As a gay man, I’d never understood transgender people. In fact, until recently, I never even bothered to try. I didn’t know anyone who was “that way” and just thought that a guy that wanted to be a girl was just taking the stereotypical gay effeminate nature to an extreme. But after watching Caitlyn Jenner’s […]
Every summer when I was a kid, we’d go to Myrtle Beach for a week. It was a four hour drive from where I grew up in Upstate South Carolina so there would be a couple stops along the way. Dad would give us a couple bucks, and my brother and I would go into […]
On Friday night, my husband and I went to the First Church of the Nazarene to hear Sarah Bessey, a Christian blogger from western Canada. From the moment we arrived in the gym where chairs and a mock living room stage had been set up for the conversation, I was touched by the energy in […]
The New York Times reported today that Pope Francis suggested that Donald Trump is not a Christian. Returning home to Rome after a six day trip to Mexico, the Pope told a reporter, “A person who thinks only about building walls, wherever they may be, and not building bridges, is not Christian.” Earlier that day, Pope […]
My husband and I were robbed on Saturday. It wasn’t our personal home, but one of our rental houses in Palm Springs. This was the second robbery at that property in a month. The first time they stole three brand new TVs. This time they took two of three TVs we had just purchased to […]
I failed today in my mission to be a voice for discourse in our nation, not a voice of discord. My high school debate coach always told us to agree to disagree without being disagreeable. And that’s what I want to do, but I let my temper and anger get the best of me today. […]
What does it mean to come in second place? Last month, the Clemson Tigers tarnished their undefeated record with a loss to Alabama in the college football playoff. In the Super Bowl last night, the Carolina Panthers were stunned by the Denver Broncos. Is there any glory in 2nd? In the United States, coming in second doesn’t […]
I had lunch yesterday with some friends, several of whom are Republican, and nobody got Donald Trump’s appeal. But it’s very important to me to understand the other side. To listen to the views of Trump supporters on issues and try to figure out if we have areas of common ground. I grew up in Anderson, SC. […]
My Momma always told me, “You’re known by the company you keep.” I’m not sure the origin of this phrase, but the sentiment comes from Proverbs 13:20. “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the one who walks with fools will be destroyed.” Last night, Ted Cruz won the 2016 Iowa caucus […]